Don’t Go Back Just Because You’re Lonely

There’s a silence that hits different when you’re healing. The phone doesn’t ring like it used to. The good morning texts are gone. The conversations you had, even if unhealthy, are replaced with stillness. And in that stillness—loneliness creeps in.

But hear me clearly: Loneliness is not a reason to go back to what God delivered you from.

Going back might feel easier in the moment, but it always costs more than you remember. What God removed wasn’t rejection—it was redirection. And yes, healing can feel isolating. But it’s in that space of separation where He’s making you whole.

“Do not call to mind the former things, or ponder things of the past. Behold, I will do something new...”
— Isaiah 43:18–19

Loneliness is a whisper that tries to convince you that temporary comfort is better than long-term peace.
But sis, there’s nothing back there for you. Not the old conversations. Not the unfinished soul ties. Not the counterfeit connections. When God called you out, He meant forward.

Let’s be honest: loneliness isn’t always about others not being there—it’s about you not feeling seen in this season. But God sees. And He stays.

“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
— Psalm 34:18

You are not unloved. You are not unwanted. You are in a season of pruning so the real fruit of your future relationships can flourish. That means friendships that don’t drain you. Connections that don’t confuse you. A rhythm with God that no longer needs an audience to feel complete.

Here’s what you do when loneliness shows up:

1. Tell God the truth.
   Say, “Lord, I miss the idea of them. But I want You more.”
   He can handle your honesty and help you release what has never served your purpose.

2. Redirect your desire.
   Loneliness is a signal, not a sentence. Use it to deepen your prayer life, your creativity, or your rest.

   “In Your presence is fullness of joy…” – Psalm 16:11

3. Stay anchored in the Word.
   Go back to what God said, not what they said. When you rehearse truth, your heart remembers what your feelings forget.

You don’t have to answer the text.
You don’t have to reattach to the past.
You don’t have to settle just because healing takes time.

You’re not lonely—you’re being set apart.

Let God fill the space.
Let peace replace the pressure.
And let grace carry you forward.

Because sis… you are not going back.... when God has so much better ahead for you!

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"Before you answer that text or revisit that situation, pause. Let this blog remind you why you left—and why you’re not going back." - Pastor Sybil Kearse 💜